24 September 2012

My Father, My Husband

The next time you think you’re having a bad day, image how Valerie Spruill felt when she discovered that her husband and her father are the same person.
That is the beginning of an article [link below] about one woman's real life. 
On this blog I make fun of those trees that unintentionally turn their ancestors into zombies, bigamists and victims/perpetrators of incest. Except for the zombies those things happen in real life. It is never my intent to make light of those situations but to reinforce the idea that our ancestors should be respected. You will most likely find skeletons in the family closet. There is no need to make them up.
With distant ancestors it may be easier to be accepting or forgiving of their faults and actions. The times they lived in were drastically different and we didn't know them personally. For older generations we may have known, even briefly, digging up those skeletons can give us a better perspective on their personalities and maybe help us empathize. In a few cases we won't find a reason for their actions and will just have to live with the fact that the person was a horrible human being. Whatever the case, if it weren't for them we wouldn't be here so our goal should be to find the truth.
The bravery it took for Valerie Spruill to search out the truth should be applauded. She knew this outcome was a possibility and went forward anyway. Many others would have ignored their suspicions or swept the results under the rug. May she continue to be strong for her entire family.   

One Twisted Family Tree - woman finds out late husband was also her father  
by Beacon Journal Columnist Bob Dyer

Valerie Spruill, Ohio Woman, Finds Out Husband Was Her Father  
by Cazan Sieczkowski at The Huffington Post

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